Life is hard, and it takes a strong person to stand up to the adversity that life dishes out with amazing regularity.
Young adults of the “millennial” generation are sometimes criticized for not being resilient. According to the stereotype, they want success handed to them and when they come up short, they quit and run home to their overprotective parents.
It’s unfair and simplistic to use this stereotype to generalize about all these young people. I know several talented adults of this age-group who show up ready to pay dues, take responsibility and learn from their mistakes. In a word, they are resilient.
We want our children to grow up to be resilient.
But what is resilience, really?
I think you can get some answers by reading these articles. They aren’t about parenting, but I think you’ll learn something about resilience…
If you’re a parent who wants your child to grow up resilient, here’s the bottom line:
Resilience is a behavior pattern your child will have to learn. Not as something to know, but as something to do. He or she will need to exercise resilience repeatedly for it to become the habitual way of a resilient person.
If you try to protect your child from adversity, from challenges that might risk failure, or from the frustrations of hard work and problem solving – even if you do this out of love – it will have the opposite effect. It will rob your child of precious opportunities to learn how to be resilient.