Fact: To learn from what happens to you, you have to take the time to think about what happened, why it happened and what you could have done differently. And most people don’t always do that.
Fact: Busy teenagers almost never do this kind of reflection. But they need to, unless it’s okay to continue making the same mistakes over and over again.
This 3-minute video explains a simple method that parents can use to help their teens learn from their mistakes.
Tip: Just ask the questions and listen. Don’t answer the question for the child, even if you’re tempted.
Cool side-benefit: This questioning technique also engages the prefrontal cortex, an exercise that helps wire the teen brain for critical thinking and judgment. Do you know anyone who cares whether a certain teen learns the lessons of experience while building the patterns of critical thinking and judgment? If so, send them a link to this video.